Dating, the potential marriage partner
Yes, the questions: Dating...Are you ready to date? Am I ready to date? How do you find that Spiritual Partner? Will God provide? Everyone goes through that phase, me included...Lately, my friends have been going through this and have been asking me questions. We can talk into the wee hours of the night about it and still be saying the same thing over and over..."What is God's purpose for me?","Am I wasting my time dating you?","Is it just the physical attraction?"
I've had more and more of these discussions in the past 18months. Sometimes, the answers are there but our judgement has been clouded by other distractions. Of course, it's easier said than done. You meet someone of the opposite sex, you get along, both are Spiritually connected with God, but is something missing? You've both prayed about the relationship together and with God, but sometimes it doesn't work out. It's not the end, there's still hope. People say, each person has a "soulmate" out there, well at least one, but does that mean you have to marry your "soulmate"? I've had that discussion w/ peopel before and be "soulmates" but not w/ in the same context. It's open to interpretation. It's complicated. I'll reserve my judgement on that.
All I'm saying is looking for that right Spiritual partner...Please correct me if I'm wrong, but some of the qualities he/she must have:
1. Be a born again Christian
2. Have the desire to grow and serve the Lord, being active in his/her Church
3. Possess Christ-like qualities in him/her, obeying the two greatest commandments
I think those are the key and of course, being able to connect, work together, talk, help each other through their struggles are important, nonetheless, everything should flow if he/she possess the three qualities. You may read this and say, yup, I have those qualities. I know a number of guys that have those qualities too, but that doesn't mean he/she is the one you are going to marry. If you're lucky enough, the people that possess these qualities are also your friends, perhaps even close ones too. I have been fortunate enough to have friends that have that desire to learn, grow and serve the Lord, to live in Christ. When the time is right, we'll both know. In the mean time, here are a couple articles:
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001449.cfm
http://www.boundless.org/2005/answers/a0001454.cfm
I don't have the anwers, only opinions...let me know what you think on this subject.
I've had more and more of these discussions in the past 18months. Sometimes, the answers are there but our judgement has been clouded by other distractions. Of course, it's easier said than done. You meet someone of the opposite sex, you get along, both are Spiritually connected with God, but is something missing? You've both prayed about the relationship together and with God, but sometimes it doesn't work out. It's not the end, there's still hope. People say, each person has a "soulmate" out there, well at least one, but does that mean you have to marry your "soulmate"? I've had that discussion w/ peopel before and be "soulmates" but not w/ in the same context. It's open to interpretation. It's complicated. I'll reserve my judgement on that.
All I'm saying is looking for that right Spiritual partner...Please correct me if I'm wrong, but some of the qualities he/she must have:
1. Be a born again Christian
2. Have the desire to grow and serve the Lord, being active in his/her Church
3. Possess Christ-like qualities in him/her, obeying the two greatest commandments
I think those are the key and of course, being able to connect, work together, talk, help each other through their struggles are important, nonetheless, everything should flow if he/she possess the three qualities. You may read this and say, yup, I have those qualities. I know a number of guys that have those qualities too, but that doesn't mean he/she is the one you are going to marry. If you're lucky enough, the people that possess these qualities are also your friends, perhaps even close ones too. I have been fortunate enough to have friends that have that desire to learn, grow and serve the Lord, to live in Christ. When the time is right, we'll both know. In the mean time, here are a couple articles:
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001449.cfm
http://www.boundless.org/2005/answers/a0001454.cfm
I don't have the anwers, only opinions...let me know what you think on this subject.
posted by Bonbon at 10:26 PM
1 Comments:
Those are good qaultities Bonnie, keep them.
I have a number of conversation with my accountability partner about this. Biggest issue we have is not to compromise our value.
As for soulmate, there is a boundless article talk about that. I just can't find it. Basically it is saying that the soulmate is the person that u marry at the altar.
Someone once told me relationship is a lot of work...quite true. Good thing I am a workaholic :D haha..right!!
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