Love is Patient, Love is Kind...
Tonight I was talking to one of my girlfriend's in China whom I've known since I was a child. We grew up together, been through the good and bad times. Ah yes, relationships, the "R" word...a word that can make us feel mushy inside or full of hatred. Opposite spectrums depending on who you are. I don't know if I'm the one to give advice as I'm often the one seeking advice but here it goes.
Relationships will always be complicated...he said, she said. When it doesn't work out, give it time, prayer and time will heal the wounds of the heart. Sometimes, when you part, you can still be friends after the wounds start healing and sometimes you're better off not communicating anymore. Whether the memories are too painful or maybe you're not ready yet. When one pushes the other, that person may push you further away, not all guys and gals communicate the same way. One may feel suffocated, the other neglected, one may be jealous, the other insecure...Whatever the reason, give him/her the space he/she needs to figure things out...if the relationship already ended and you just want the friendship, maybe he/she doesn't want any part of it, not just yet. Sometimes, being friends is better off. If the relationship didn't work, and the friendship is there, take it. Perhaps, one day it can be something more again, and maybe not but at least you have the friendship...I'm not saying that it's easy, of course not! But girl, no matter how much you want him to respond to email, ecard, phone, etc... if he wants to be alone, just let him be. It takes two to make any relationship work...same with friendships. If he/she is important to you, than both will make the time for phone calls/emails/dinners, etc... If you're the only one doing it as it seems like in this case, let me ask you this, is this what you want? Being the one sending ecards, emails, phone calls, etc...you're putting in the effort, calling his friends...this may also sound like stalking as well. The blocking email, maybe there's something that you don't know that he feels hurt about.
You've done your part, that's all you can do. The rest is not up to you. Obviously, he's not ready to talk, so as hard as it is for me to say this, b/c you're my friend...move on. There are lots of guys in China or here back home...The right one is out there for you and me.
Yes, it's easier said than done...but girl, I'll pray 4 you.
Relationships will always be complicated...he said, she said. When it doesn't work out, give it time, prayer and time will heal the wounds of the heart. Sometimes, when you part, you can still be friends after the wounds start healing and sometimes you're better off not communicating anymore. Whether the memories are too painful or maybe you're not ready yet. When one pushes the other, that person may push you further away, not all guys and gals communicate the same way. One may feel suffocated, the other neglected, one may be jealous, the other insecure...Whatever the reason, give him/her the space he/she needs to figure things out...if the relationship already ended and you just want the friendship, maybe he/she doesn't want any part of it, not just yet. Sometimes, being friends is better off. If the relationship didn't work, and the friendship is there, take it. Perhaps, one day it can be something more again, and maybe not but at least you have the friendship...I'm not saying that it's easy, of course not! But girl, no matter how much you want him to respond to email, ecard, phone, etc... if he wants to be alone, just let him be. It takes two to make any relationship work...same with friendships. If he/she is important to you, than both will make the time for phone calls/emails/dinners, etc... If you're the only one doing it as it seems like in this case, let me ask you this, is this what you want? Being the one sending ecards, emails, phone calls, etc...you're putting in the effort, calling his friends...this may also sound like stalking as well. The blocking email, maybe there's something that you don't know that he feels hurt about.
You've done your part, that's all you can do. The rest is not up to you. Obviously, he's not ready to talk, so as hard as it is for me to say this, b/c you're my friend...move on. There are lots of guys in China or here back home...The right one is out there for you and me.
Yes, it's easier said than done...but girl, I'll pray 4 you.
posted by Bonbon at 10:01 PM
1 Comments:
Tru dat...
emotions is not like a light switch...if that guy si not ready to communicate..then he is not...
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